But such is the folly of an anonymous letter-writer who wonders to My girlfriend and I have been going out for six months.At about the three-month mark, she started raising the issue of dating exclusively. ) Recently, I almost hooked up with a girl I met at yoga, and would have if she hadn’t backed out.Then you’ll never know if he’s really off drooling over some girl during downward-facing dog while you’re abstaining from the Netflix show you promised you’d watch together.
But that’s the kind of thing you really need to decide in advance, and think through carefully: Are you cool with your partner taking home the occasional yoga hottie of their own? ” (Confessing your aborted hookup strikes me as needlessly provocative.
Back at , Galanes tells Anonymous to tell his lady friend a sugar-coated version of the truth: “Talk to your girlfriend right away,” he writes. It would be the only thing she hears, and it’s beside the point.
The other person gets all starry-eyed, and there you are, backing away slowly, terrified of being bound too soon.
But this is why there are so many perfectly great vague, date-like but commitment-phobic ways to describe a relationship wherein one or both parties are not ready for the more traditional language: Hanging out, hooking up, chilling, dating, “dating partner.”What’s more, most people seem to know in about a month whether they want to get serious with someone.
Personally, I tend to think that if you’ve been dating someone regularly for a couple of months and they’re not ready to commit to an exclusive relationship with you, they probably never will be.